Isaac had his aero-digestive clinic appointment one week ago. I went to the appointment not knowing what to expect; even so, I could never have imagined it would go the way it did. We met with the GI doctor, then the pulminologist, and then the ENT. The ENT wanted to pull out Isaac’s feeding tube and put a camera through his nose to watch his throat and airway while Isaac took a bottle. I wasn’t convinced Isaac would accept a bottle (and i didn’t have one with me) but the doctor insisted it had to be done this way. I asked if it could be done while breastfeeding but that idea was shot down and I had to pump milk while sitting in the exam room. None of the doctors were very conscientious about keeping the door closed as they came and went. Isaac was taken for the camera and I was told I needed to stay in the exam room no matter how hard Isaac was crying down the hall or else I would be sent to the waiting room. He asked if I was “OK with that” and honestly, no, I wasn’t OK with it but I would do it. Less than 10 minutes later, the nurse came to get me, saying that Isaac was refusing the bottle and the doctor was willing to try the camera while breastfeeding, something he’s never had to do before. Isaac did well on camera. Afterwards, he wanted to continue nursing and ended up choking three times, twice in front of the ENT. Regardless, the doctor felt that Isaac was “safe” to eat by mouth because he was indeed coughing and a little aspiration shouldn’t lead to long-term lung issues.
The pulminologist had a much kinder demeanor and suggested we try all oral feeds and if it doesn’t go well, reinsert the feeding tube and try again in a month. I left the appointment fighting tears. My gut was telling me he’s not ready yet, regardless of what the doctors say. But I will give it a shot and see how it goes. The rest of Friday wasn’t bad and Saturday went better than I expected. Saturday morning, I received a phone call from the pulmonary office, checking in to see how he was doing. I told them that if he stays like he is today, I don’t think I’ll have to put his tube back. But by Sunday evening, Isaac was struggling again. He would choke while nursing, choke while trying a bottle, and his reflux was 10x worse than before we pulled his tube out and he was choking on that too. Monday I couldn’t stop crying every time he struggled. I paged the on-call pulminologist and was advised to reinsert the tube and switch Isaac back to continuous feeds. I felt heartbroken to have to put his tube back in and I felt heartbroken watching him struggle. Neither option appealed to me. Later that afternoon, the visiting nurse stopped by to help hold him down so I could put his feeding tube back in. It was an almost instant improvement. He stopped refluxing and choking.
So now it looks like Isaac has a volume issue. When he started getting more at once, his reflux worsened tremendously. I don’t know what to do for him. The feeding tube helps to protect him from choking when he eats but could potentially worsen his reflux and lead to oral aversion, the continuous feeds help minimize his reflux but cause him to feel hungry all the time and could possibly be contributing to his issue tolerating volume, and feeding him by mouth satisfies his need to nurse and avoid developing oral aversion but causes him to choke and reflux. I don’t know where to find a balance for him. I feel like I’m trying to balance a stack of china tea cups on my head while riding a unicycle and juggling four monkeys trying to eat bananas.
I brought up the idea of getting a second opinion in Boston at his 4 month check-up. She didn’t see what they’d do differently at this point and feels it would be a waste. I agree for now. But if there is no improvement in the coming months following his current doctors’ plan, I will seek a second opinion.